In the age of social media, the lines between reality and aspiration have become increasingly blurred. Platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube have revolutionised how we communicate, learn, and do business. They’ve created a space where anyone with a smartphone and an internet connection can build a brand, gain followers, and even make a living. However, as the rise of this online 'entrepreneur' culture continues, so does the shift from promoting the reality of hard work, persistence, and building a business for long-term success, to selling an idealised version of a quick, effortless path to wealth and fame.
While it’s true that these platforms have empowered many entrepreneurs and creators, a growing number of online 'gurus' are capitalising on selling the "dream" rather than the reality of the grind, sacrifices, and challenges it takes to build a lasting and sustainable business.
The Shift from Reality to the Dream
A decade ago, when social media was just beginning to take off, the focus was largely on sharing personal experiences, lifestyle moments, and hobbies. Slowly, however, the platforms evolved, and entrepreneurs began leveraging their large followings to sell everything from products to services. What started as an opportunity for genuine personal branding quickly became an arena for sales and marketing disguised as authenticity.
Now, we are seeing a shift: every tom, Dick and Harry it seems plus the digital marketers are peddling not just products, but the "dream" of instant success. Think of the popular ads, sponsored posts, and videos promising that with just a few simple steps or a small investment, anyone can achieve financial freedom, retire early, or live a luxurious lifestyle, all without having to put in the same effort or time commitment traditionally associated with building a business.
This “dream” is packaged as a shortcut, often supported by exaggerated claims of success. People tout quick riches, passive income streams, and glamorous lifestyles, but very few talk about the behind-the-scenes struggles, financial challenges, mental health issues, the unpredictability, and the sheer grind required to sustain such businesses over time. It’s often portrayed as a glamorous and easy route to fame and fortune, when in reality, building a business—particularly one that is both profitable and sustainable, takes years of planning, hard work, and consistent effort.
The Psychology Behind the Dream
The appeal of quick success is deeply rooted in human psychology. Social media is an ideal platform for selling dreams because it taps into our deepest desires: success, recognition, and a better life. Psychologically, humans are wired to want immediate gratification. The dopamine rush we get from instant likes, comments, and shares triggers our brain’s reward system, which can lead to addiction. This is why social media often feeds into the fantasy of a shortcut to success and an idealised lifestyle.
What’s worse is the phenomenon of “comparison culture.” Social media platforms constantly bombard us with images of people living seemingly perfect lives. According to a 2021 study by the American Psychological Association, social comparison on social media has been linked to feelings of inadequacy and lower self-esteem. When people see others flaunting their luxury vacations, financial success, or perfect families, it’s easy to feel as though they are falling short. This is compounded when people begin to compare their own business progress to the curated success stories of influencers online. It fosters a mindset where individuals feel they are “missing out” or not doing enough, even though they may be on the right track.
One of the most concerning aspects of this is how it affects mental health. According to studies, particularly one by the University of Pennsylvania, excessive social media usage can lead to anxiety, depression, and stress. When we see these idealised versions of success being sold on platforms, it creates unrealistic expectations and fuels feelings of inadequacy in those who are striving to build their own businesses.
The Dark Side: Mental Health Implications
As social media has evolved, so too has the conversation around its effects on mental health. The constant exposure to idealised versions of reality can be detrimental to one's well-being. A survey conducted by the UK-based charity "Mind" found that 1 in 3 young people reported that social media caused them to feel anxious and depressed. The pressure to keep up with influencers and their fast-paced, picture-perfect lives is immense.
For entrepreneurs, the mental health implications can be even more profound. Many people trying to build their businesses through social media are under the impression that they need to constantly “perform” to stay relevant. The fear of not meeting the curated success story can lead to burnout, anxiety, and feelings of failure. This is where the gap between the ‘dream’ and the ‘reality’ becomes even more damaging. When the reality doesn’t align with what was promised, entrepreneurs face disappointment, self-doubt, and sometimes, even a complete loss of self-worth.
Moreover, the addictive nature of social media can lead to a feeling of "fomo" (fear of missing out) or "lifestyle envy." As more individuals turn to social media for business advice, they often feel pressured to keep up with influencers, who may be falsely presenting their lives as successful and easy.
Trends and Statistics on Mental Health
A 2021 study published by the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology examined the effects of social media on mental health. The results were revealing—researchers found that people who limited their social media usage to 30 minutes per day experienced significant improvements in their overall mental health, including a reduction in symptoms of anxiety and depression.
More than ever, there is a clear call from psychologists and mental health experts to reduce the pressure and false ideals perpetuated by social media. Dr. Jean Twenge, a psychologist and author of "iGen," highlights that constant social media use is contributing to a generation of young people with higher rates of depression and lower levels of self-esteem. Her research shows that the more time young people spend on social media, the greater their risk of facing mental health issues.
Moving Forward
While social media has given many entrepreneurs the platform to build global brands, it’s clear that the culture surrounding it can be harmful, especially when it comes to unrealistic expectations of success. Instead of focusing on the ‘dream,’ we must shift the narrative to the reality of what it takes to build a sustainable business. Success requires time, resilience, and an authentic connection with one's audience—qualities that can’t be bought or fast-tracked.
For those looking to build businesses for the long haul, the key is to remain grounded in reality, focus on personal growth, and not fall for the seductive pull of the “dream” sold by 'Tom, Dick or Harry'. A balanced approach to social media—one that celebrates authenticity over perfection—could help mitigate the mental health risks we are increasingly seeing.
The rise of social media should be seen as an opportunity to connect and inspire, not a tool for presenting a perfect, unattainable version of success. By promoting transparency and honesty in business, we can build a more sustainable and mentally healthy entrepreneurial culture.